In the great classic “A Christmas Carol,” Ebenezer Scrooge says wistfully at the end of the movie, “I am a very lucky man.” As I sit at the end of 2019, I too feel like I am a very lucky man. As an old saying goes, you can’t count on luck, but sometimes being lucky counts a whole lot. I want to share a few of the reasons why I feel particularly blessed at the end of this calendar year.
- My wife has battled back from cancer, twice! Every follow-up blood test is nerve wracking, but as we have learned, it is the “new normal.” We are so grateful to have been blessed with two oncologists that have given her the strength, and the medical knowledge, to overcome. I realize this narrative can change at any time, and not every battle against cancer ends in victory – I lost my father to cancer 29 years ago. So, for now I will consider myself very lucky, and blessed, to share in this moment.
- I have the most amazing, articulate, artistic, and beautiful-in-every-sense-of-the-word daughter. She amazes me more and more every day, in ways that I find hard to explain. One of my long-running jokes with her is that after she was born, the nurses switched babies because there is no way this girl could be mine. Well, in a serious way that is very true – I really wonder how this girl could be the way she is with me as her father. I’ve made so many mistakes and failed her in so many ways. Maybe every father feels that way – but to have her in my life seems to me to just be pure luck.
- I’ve been given a new “leash” on life. Not “lease,” as the saying usually goes, but a new leash. I’m beginning to realize that I am tethered to something different, something new. I have had to come to grips with some rather hard truths over the past few months, and have had a lot of time to evaluate my priorities. I’ve said good-bye to some long held dreams, and have come to embrace some new (or, at least, renewed) goals. In one sense it is kind of scary – the old was so comfortable and predictable. In another sense it is liberating. Either way, it is certainly real, and I look forward to seeing how 2020 plays out.
- I have some of the most amazing, thoughtful, and generous friends. Really – some of you reading this are who I am talking about. The last half of 2019 we could not have survived without the financial generosity of many, many people. It was a deeply humbling experience. I’ve already referenced Ebenezer Scrooge, so I guess I might as well mention George Bailey in “It’s a Wonderful Life.” The angel Clarence got it right – every man who has friends is rich indeed. My wife and I are already looking for ways in which we can pay this blessing forward, and our hope is that we can help others in same or similar situations. Whether that happens in 2020 or not, I look forward to being an angel in someone’s life as so many were angels to us.
I am a very lucky man. Maybe blessed is the more proper, biblical, spiritual term, but today lucky just seems to be more appropriate. I did not, and do not, deserve the gifts I have listed (and there are many more!), but I do recognize how my life has been made fuller and richer by having received them, and I do not want any one to think I am ungrateful for having been given these gifts. If I can see anything more clearly or more profoundly, it is because I stand on the shoulders of some prodigious giants.
In the coming year may we all ascend higher by climbing lower.