Last week I posted some thoughts about why I never preach about the “Hallmark” holidays (Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Grandparents Day, Groundhog Day, Hound Dog Day – okay, I made the last one up). That post was largely in response to yet another of the endless litany of articles and posts written in adulation of those made-for-commercial-profit days. As such, I think I got a little carried away with my vehemence against those promotions. But, my dander is still up a little, so I thought I would have another go at the topic, this time with a little more reason and a little less harangue.
Here are the main reasons I never preach about those holidays:
- They have no biblical warrant. Can you honestly tell me that a Mothers Day or a Fathers Day fulfills the fifth commandment? With a straight face? Mercy – what will all those countless generations do who did not have a Mothers Day to help them escape the fiery pits of hell? The idea of the initial Mother’s Day may have been to honor one’s mother, but that boat sailed a long time ago! Today the existence of Mothers and Fathers Days is just another commercial juggernaut. While I am 100% in favor of honoring one’s parents, I am genuinely troubled by the thought that buying a card or sending some roses actually fulfills the fifth commandment.
- While the above reason carries a lot of weight with me, the real reason I will no longer preach on the “Hallmark” holidays is because those days are simply unbearable to be in worship for so many people. There is no joy to sit and be subjected to a sermon on the “joys” of parenthood if you are infertile, or if you have experienced miscarriages or still-births. There is no joy to sit and be subjected to a sermon on the “joys” of raising godly children if your children have rejected you and your faith. There is no joy to sit and be subjected to a sermon on the “joys” of honoring your parent if your parent sexually or physically abused you or abandoned you either physically or emotionally. Preachers who sell out to the demands of 5th Avenue rarely stop to consider how destructive their sappy, emotion-laden homilies can be. And, when this point is combined with point #1, why do it? Why risk so much pain when the pay-out is so infinitesimally small?
I believe in fulfilling the fifth commandment. I believe we are to honor our parents. I applaud those children who love and honor and cherish their mothers and fathers each and every day of the year. I am not opposed to the idea of preaching on Godly families and the responsibilities of fathers, mothers, sons and daughters. I can and will do so. I just will not do so on the second Sunday of May or the third Sunday of June.